Interestingly, the same survey showed that “One in three people think a bit of immaturity helps in bonding well with children,” and I concur.Rather than allow that to make a case for older men being great fathers to infants, that should make the case for young women of childbearing age to mate with young men their own age. Young men are encouraged to be a bit more mature, but remain goofy enough to be playful dads, and young women will hopefully be able to retain a life-long partner instead of an aging and eternal player willing to discard her as soon as she turns 40, or one she wants to ditch as soon as she’s old enough to realize what she’s gotten herself into.He says, “If there’s one tangible thing that men can do to help end sexism—and create a healthier culture in which young people come of age—it’s to stop chasing after women young enough to be their biological daughters.” Schwyzer goes on to say, “As hyperbolic as it may sound, there are few more powerful actions that men can take to transform the culture than to date, mate, and stay with their approximate chronological peers.If aging guys would commit to doing this, everyone would benefit: older men and younger men, older women and younger women.” There’s no doubt that not everyone will agree with Schwyzer on this, especially not other middle-aged men.“Ask women in their teens and 20s who are in relationships with older men about guys their own age, and you’ll invariably hear laments about young men’s immaturity,” Schwyzer says.“That callowness is often oversold by too many aging Lotharios wanting to emphasize the difference between their own supposed expertise and young men’s clumsiness.” Mmm-hmm. According to Schwyzer, many young women end up with older men who are “deeply unsafe.” For his part, Schwyzer urges older men to mentor younger men instead of taking advantage of the younger women those young men should be dating.These people will have dates on a regular basis, and they may or may not be having sexual relations.This period of courtship is sometimes seen as a precursor to engagement.
I stayed married to my husband for seven years, and by the time our relationship ended, I saw our age difference in a completely different way.
That seems to be a sound directive, given that according to a recent survey commissioned by Nickelodeon UK, “men and women agree men remain ‘immature’ well into their late 30s and early 40s.” Both genders also agree that women mature into proper adults at the age of 32.
Not coincidentally, that’s the age I was when I divorced my much older husband.
It’s quite common to see older men and younger women dating in this country and all over the world.
You might even say Western men are better able to maintain their desire for younger women in a way that isn’t as pedophilic as others.