It isn’t out of the question that I might find a fat person interesting/sexy/romantically viable at some point, someday.” And, from what we know about how fluid human sexuality actually is, this seems like a pretty reasonable assumption that this will, indeed, happen, like, at least once.
But, that you’re into a fattie, well, that’s not something most people want to do, because admitting that fact is incredibly stigmatizing.
I used to spend hours manually scrolling through each potential match’s questions until I found out how they answered one question in particular.
It goes like this: As a fat woman, it is basically imperative to me that any of my potential matches answer “No” to this question if I’m going to seriously consider meeting them IRL. (Almost as soon as OKC announced the change in search options, people on the interwebz began to consider what the change meant in relation to questions on OKC that address racial preferences in dating.
A few weeks ago, online dating website Ok Cupid announced that paying users on the site could now “search” their matches by the answers they gave to the site’s user-generated match questions.
These questions are as varied as “Have you ever had sex with a person within the first hour of meeting them?
Who we desire to be, and to love, isn’t just a matter of individualist private choice in the way that the ideology of American free-market political liberalism leads us to believe.Jake and I had been talking on the phone everyday after school for several months, doing things like playing our favorite songs for one another. When I finally worked up the courage to ask him to be my boyfriend, officially, publicly, he told me he’d call me back with his decision.Jake called me back after a few minutes to tell me that he had consulted with his older brother, showing him my yearbook photo, and that his older brother had advised him against us going out, officially, publicly.” and “Do you like the taste of beer” and “Do you often find yourself wanting to chuck it all and go live on a sailboat?” There is a lot of random shit people on Ok Cupid want to know about the people they might one-day marry/fuck/kill.By marking “No” to the question “If one of your potential matches were overweight, would that be a dealbreaker?